How to be confident?
Confidence in a person can be defined as his positive frame of mind, emanating from an absolute trust in his own strengths and capabilities.
"Never bend your head. Hold it high. Look the world straight in the eye."
- Helen Keller
Confidence is often pointed out to be the most valuable attribute of the human character. Confidence spawns other essential character traits such as dedication, determination, integrity, steadfastness, etc. Great men and women have reiterated time and again that confidence has been the key to many a successful ventures in the world. So, what does confidence really mean and how does a person become confident?
Confidence in a person can be defined as his positive frame of mind, emanating from an absolute trust in his own strengths and capabilities. We’re all born confident, so in this sense, confidence actually becomes an innate ability of ours. We don’t have to learn a thing that we’re already born with. However, we can always improve upon our qualities; and confidence is just one of those:
You were born confident! : Remember the time when you first entered this world. You wept and wept confidently! You weren’t at all apprehensive about what went on there, or how many people were watching you, or what the repercussions might be etc. The bottom-line is that you were supremely confident in your action. So it comes naturally to you. You just have to know that you’re confident. We are all confident right from our birth. It’s only that our confidence has subsided due to our run-ins with dejection and disappointment. Yet, it’s still there beneath the surface, waiting to implode at our nod.
Pros and cons: There are always two sides to a coin. Everything in this world has its own advantages and disadvantages. Humans are no exception either. We’ve all got our own set of abilities and limitations, but more importantly, we need to be well aware of them. This helps us in confronting situations confidently. We then tend to act according to our strengths more, rather than act in accordance with the situation, which runs the risk of exposing our shortcomings and leaving us vulnerable in the end.
Anticipation pays off: It’s true that we can’t go about predicting our future. We would be hopelessly miserable at that. Nevertheless, we can still choose to anticipate the outcome of our actions. In fact, most of us do this all the time. You would find that people generally approach a situation with the policy of damage limitation. In reality, they’re anticipating the worst outcome of a situation. This is not at all recommended, as it gives rise to pessimism and severely undermines a person’s capabilities. Conversely, we can also anticipate the best outcome of a situation, which could spur us to devote greater efforts and perform above par.
Faith matters: People will always have things to say no matter what you do, or how well you do it. This should not deter you from your ambitions. If at all, it should prove to be an impetus for you. This can only happen when you trust yourself and have full faith in your abilities. You cannot expect people to believe in you, unless you have utmost conviction yourself. This is also a very important tool to build your confidence. Trusting yourself completely will make you immune to fear and apprehension, or in other words, make you confident.
Thou art not the master: It doesn’t matter how smart, talented, or intelligent you are; because you have nothing over the outcome of a situation, except anticipating it. You have to embrace the fact that there are things out of your control; you cannot control everything in this universe. What is in our hands is to simply try, by putting in our efforts sincerely and wholeheartedly. A fair amount of confidence can be derived just by knowing that we don’t control everything, and thank God for that!
Risks are rewarding: Many a time in our lives, we fear taking risks. This is very unfortunate, as we can learn a great deal by doing so. Instead, we should try to eliminate fear, prepare ourselves well in advance, and take calculated risks. This improves in enhancing the risk-taking ability of a person, which holds in him good stead all through his life. Taking a calculated risk means that we’ve already accounted for the risk not paying off, and if it does, then there’s no confidence-booster like it.
Eliminate fear, learn from failure: The fear of failure keeps us from learning and evolving, which is not the way to go about things. We should treat failure and success equally. Failure teaches us a lot of things that success can’t. In fact, we get better each time that we fail. It’s only just that we give failure its due, but we shouldn’t let it dictate terms to us. We should learn from our mistakes and correct them in our next attempt. This helps us to eradicate fear from our system and nurtures our confidence.
Practice makes perfect: Like any other quality associated with humans, confidence too is worthwhile only when it is practiced. Devote your efforts toward polishing actions that define your confidence. You can never become confident in a day. You need to exercise your confident habits daily, in order to get better at them. Even when you’ve developed a substantial amount of confidence in yourself, you shouldn’t stop practicing it, because as they say, sky is the limit.